About

Is isn't easy to be different in a world constantly sending the message we need to be a certain version of an ideal, we aren't good enough as we inherently are, and we should conform to norm to be deserving of acceptance and love. 

My story is one of leaving the safe path and building the life, relationships, and community where I feel so completely accepted as my authentic self that I do not feel the need to act a certain way or bend to the rules and traditional norms of those long dead. 

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Before I had ever heard the terms "polyamory", "ethical/consensual non-monogamy", or "open relationship" I knew that I wanted to live life on my own terms and love the way that felt most natural for me. None of these terms or topics had come up during my university studies for my degree in Psychology. For an emotionally excruciating year, I tried to figure things out in my open relationship through trial-and-error. Eventually, I discovered a book on polyamory and immediately felt seen and understood. This gold mine gave me non-monogamy specific relationship tools and skills, so I no longer needed to reinvent the wheel.

Since then, I've read hundreds of articles and books, listened to innumerable podcasts, and sought and provided relationship advise to countless individuals and couples.

 

There are few public examples of how to live a non-traditional monogamous relationship, and  I have personally experienced and had heard many horror stories of people living in non-traditional relationships who had been shamed by therapists or who were working with psychologists with no practical knowledge or real world experience of ethical non-monogamy.

 

I want to help individuals leading this non-traditional lifestyles to create practical solutions, learn skills, and change perspectives to help them build the type of relationships and life that feels authentically right for them.